Time for season two! I absolutely love season two because I'm a big fan of Bambi. Seasons 2 and 3 are by far my favorites out of the four. Let's begin!
Thoughts While Watching
- It’s Alex! I liked him. I still liked Hannah/Ben better, but Alex and Hannah were cute together and he seemed sweet. He didn’t deserve the level of bullshit he had to deal with.
- Also, I love the actor who plays Alex. He was on Smallville too.
- Poor Alex. He has to be so confused.
- IT’S BAMBI!!! I love her. “Are you sure you know where you live?”
- She says if you want to do this job, the first thing you need to learn is punctuality. The day after she was late for a client herself. I mean, I get it was because she got the wrong Alex, but still. Also, this is yet another reason why I could never be an escort. I’m late for everything.
- Douchebag: “I’m sure you like to think of yourself as a call girl.” Hannah: “Thanks, I’m sure you like to think of yourself as a journalist.” Great comeback!
- Miss Punctuality is late for her nephew’s baptism and she’s the godmother.
- I HATE watersports and find it repulsive, but I love this scene where it flips between her appointment the night before and the baptism.
- This is so cheesy. I didn’t even have a luncheon or party for my son’s baptism. We just had doughnuts in the back of the church. I didn’t even invite anyone. My parents were the godparents and a few of my family members showed up uninvited. I hate my family though.
- Is Ben Jewish?
- So I guess her dad doesn’t know. I still think he seemed like he knew or suspected in the second episode.
- I laugh so hard at this every time when she smashes the crystal bowl holding the petals. That’s so me.
- I wish we got more of Bambi’s backstory. She did some porn with her brother’s friend and I think in season three she says that her parents gave her away. It sounds like her upbringing was rough.
- Oh, my God. I love Bambi so much.
- Belle, warning her of the downsides of the job: You lie to people all the time.
- Bambi: Oh, I do that anyway!
- Bambi: Oh, I’ve come up with a name. I wanna be called Bambi, because that’s what people used to call me in school.
- Belle: Bambi, right, because you’re quite doe eyed?
- Bambi, dead serious: No, it’s cause my mom got shot.
- Belle: Oh, my God. I’m so sorry.
- Bambi, cracking up: No, I’m only joking!
- I forgot how shady Bambi was initially. She must’ve been desperate for money.
- This is actually a really good point. People really do focus only on the celebrity or the politician, not the woman. And in the rare instances when they do focus on the woman, it’s even worse. Like Monica Lewinsky. They put her through absolute HELL even though she didn’t deserve a single bit of it. I love her. She’s honestly inspirational to me. She’s bounced back, grown a thick skin, has witty comebacks online to all the people who still want to make fun of her, works with anti-bullying campaigns, and tries to help change the culture so what happened to her doesn’t happen to others. I automatically lose respect for anyone that makes fun of her. It doesn’t fly with me at all.
- Alex really has to think she’s insane, but I can see how she would be intriguing to him. There's some mystery there.
- I can’t even imagine what Hannah’s going through right now. I wouldn’t have even been able to sleep. I would’ve been throwing up and freaking out all night. I’m glad it worked out for her.
Final Thoughts
This episode covered one of the biggest risks of being a sex worker: exposure. If you do any kind of sex work, you risk being exposed. No matter what job you do, sex work or not, people can and probably will find out about it even if you try to hide it. I've seen this happen to people firsthand, though not on the same scale as being exposed in a magazine with a politician. I've seen it happen to a friend of mine whose parents found her escorting ads though, which is something they touched on briefly in the beginning of the show.
Personal story time:
While I've never been a sex worker, I will admit that I have had an affair that became public knowledge for my entire small town that I live in (I mean, everyone I went to high school with, the people at the store, joe schmo down the street, they all know) which was really not good (I was married but technically kind of separated at the time, he was married, he was my manager, it was a mess) and that sick feeling you get in your stomach when you know there's a good chance something like that is about to be exposed is the worst. I can't imagine how much worse it would be for a sex worker. I really can't even begin to imagine how much worse it would be for anyone, sex worker or not, who is involved with any kind of celebrity, politician, etc. where the whole country, maybe even the whole world, might be about to weigh in on your sex life and give their unwanted opinions on your moral compass. And people tend to immediately jump to conclusions about who you are as a person too. I mean, in my case (and I'm not justifying it), we were talking about a pretty significant power imbalance (manager/employee, 20 year age difference, and a couple of threats and stories of him bragging about attacking other people were involved), he led me to believe that his wife had told him she wanted a divorce (not true apparently), and I was going through a really rough separation where divorce proceedings had already started (but we didn't end up getting a divorce, which is probably why people just view it as cheating now, whereas if we had gone through with the divorce it would have probably just been seen as a "rebound" or "moving on" instead). But people don't look at the full picture, they just see what they want to see, which is apparently a cheating, homewrecking whore who probably wanted a raise. Which, whatever, I'm over it. I know what I did was morally wrong, but I don't think it makes me a bad person. And I don't think being a sex worker makes anyone a bad person either. I don't think that the "other woman" (or "other person" for the sake of equality) should ever be viewed as a homewrecker or the problem in these situations, paid or not, regardless of whether there was coercion, lies, or a power imbalance of any kind. They weren't the ones who broke their vows. When someone makes the decision to cheat, that means the home was already broken. There were already problems in the marriage that led to that point. Take it up with the person who broke their vow to you. It's impossible to wreck a happy home. Homewreckers are a myth. And I say this as someone who has cheated before. I think this is why I sympathize with Monica Lewinsky so much. She was a very young woman, with a very powerful boss, who had a lot of power over her and her ability to keep her job, who was much older than her, who was married, and when the shit hit the fan, she was the one who was made fun of relentlessly. Hits close to home.
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